5 Qualities Needed to Make, and Sustain, a Significant Change | Excerpted from the How to Coach Anyone Book, Lesson 40
For significant behavior change to occur, the client needs these five things in ample supply:
1. Willingness
Willingness in terms of being open, not only to changing their behavior/attitude, but to making changes to thinking, behavior, physical and intangible environments, sources of energy/motivation, paradigms, assumptions, frameworks, and the like. Willingness is FAR more than just saying “I really, really want to change X.”
2. Readiness
Readiness in terms of being available or prepared for what is called for to effectuate the change, either internal or external. Someone who is ready, is likely to do something significant. It’s quite possible to be ready yet not willing.
3. Ableness
Ableness in terms of having sufficient power, strength, force, skill, intelligence, creativity, genes, means talent or resources of any kind to accomplish the objective. A lot of clients are willing to make changes to be successful and they are available/ready for it, but lack the means (ableness) to reach that objective.
4. Havingness
Havingness in terms of a person being able to accept and handle, and most importantly, maintain/sustain the success that finds them. Thing of the lottery winner who goes through the million in less than 2 years. Many of us have emotional ‘set points’ that ‘limit’ our ability to be successful and maintain that success.
5. Desire
Desire in terms of passion, very strong wanting, an urgency for something; either to make a change or to have a result. Desire can work either way: Either a desire for the end result or a desire for the ‘absence of” the problem/current behavior/situation.
Based on these five items above – how ready are you for change? Please share your thoughts below.
Perhaps these qualities above relate also relate to the area of sports coaching more than we realize. Join me and David Goldsmith on Thursday to learn more about the 5 Principles From Sport Every Life/Business Coach Needs to Know. Learn more at http://tourdecoach.com/preview-call/
Andrea ~
Please accept my eternal gratitude for putting this so cogently, and bringing it “to the top” again!
Reading and pondering these 5 points last week when you posted this, together with really listening to my Inner Me, seriously “sitting with” my Inner Judge, and giving myself my own Permission Slip to imagine doing or being anything at all, finally exploded in my Heart, and my life is changing in incredible ways!
~ and I can pass it on coherently, now that I recognize ‘my’ framework.
Bright Blessings! Karen J