Words”, they are eye-opening! He quotes him from his own books (and so on), showing who

he really was. Its very important, you should listen to!
http://www.4shared.com/dir/NqMKaOV_/Scott_A_Johnson.html
Peter

The concept you have taught us and that I pass on to my solopreneurial clients is that all we as coaches/consultants/teachers need to be is 90 days ahead on the same path. That’s like C.S.’s concept of being down the hall from each other in the same hospital arriving only 90 minutes earlier!

I had a reminder of giving my power away, though didn’t know it at the time. I called a coach I know, at it much longer than me (3-5 years?), to network with him and to ask if he knew contacts in banks that might be interested in my workshop. He practially interogated me and questioned some of my language to be HELPFUL but he did it in such a way and I was in just enough of a vulnerable mood that I wound up crying! He was encouraging me in a chastising way (as heard by my inner child) to step into my power. Instead I gave it away to his “esteemed” opinion. I hung up realizing I may not ever call him again because of his confronting style. Just not useful to me.

thanks for this, Andrea

Karin Vrij

Yes, I give away my power when I forget that someone is saying ‘this is how I did it’ not ‘this is the right way’. As soon as I remember that there is no ‘right way’, there is just ‘my way’ (‘your way’, ‘their way’), my power returns.

Every success is achieved in an individual way – often an amalgamation of the mentors’ ideas…and sometimes totally breaking the mould! Giving away my power means forgetting that I am in the driving seat.

Love

Donna.x

I love, love, love, C.S.Lewis! His simplicity and yet depth is so moving and challenging. (I like challenges.)

I was recently lovingly confronted by a woman who is now my business mentor for acting too much like an “ingenue.” I knew immediately what she was talking about when she brought the subject up. It resonated! I have been thinking about how we let others take our power, how we give them power, and how we define the acceptability of our power.

Please keep your musings coming.

At the moment though, I find myself on the other side of the equation. There is currently a large community of people learning from me. I am keenly aware of the potential for arrogance and false humility – and I find that my conscious effort now must be to take great care with the power I’ve been given. I try to do what Marlene said above, help others take responsibility to become their own guru. But even here, when I get feedback that I’ve been successful in doing this, I feel the pull of power and the need for true humility.

Recently in a meditation, after asking myself the question “who the heck do you think you are to be doing this kind of work?”, I received a powerful metaphor. I saw myself as learner, opening windows to great knowledge. And then I saw myself becoming the window for others who seek.

A friend of mine and I were just talking about this same idea right before your article came out. Relying TOO MUCH on others instead of trusting yourself creates dependence and adds to confusion.

The sign of a great coach is one who helps you to take responsibility and become your own “Guru,” while using their own expertise to give you other options.

Thanks for the awareness.

Marlene Chism
http://www.stopyourdrama.com
http://www.attitudebuilders.com