Comments on: What To Do When Coaching Takes Criticism | 8 Things I Personally Try To Live By http://www.andreajlee.com/blog/archives/2007/02/19/what-to-do-when-coaching-takes-criticism-8-things-i-personally-try-to-live-by/ Creating What Matters for Conscious Business Owners Wed, 13 Jul 2011 19:12:36 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.2 By: Coach LindaB http://www.andreajlee.com/blog/archives/2007/02/19/what-to-do-when-coaching-takes-criticism-8-things-i-personally-try-to-live-by/comment-page-1/#comment-463 Coach LindaB Fri, 23 Feb 2007 17:36:43 +0000 http://www.andreajlee.com/blog/?p=421#comment-463 Thanks for the insight. Like others that responded here many of your points hit home. It is encouraging for me to know that I am not alone and by following my instincts I am doing the best for my clients. Thanks for the insight. Like others that responded here many of your points hit home. It is encouraging for me to know that I am not alone and by following my instincts I am doing the best for my clients.

]]> By: Chris Owen http://www.andreajlee.com/blog/archives/2007/02/19/what-to-do-when-coaching-takes-criticism-8-things-i-personally-try-to-live-by/comment-page-1/#comment-462 Chris Owen Tue, 20 Feb 2007 21:14:57 +0000 http://www.andreajlee.com/blog/?p=421#comment-462 It seems quite a few of us (me included) felt #3 hit home. I certainly don't want that but your questions and comments have got me thinking 'am i slipping into rescuer some time? Thanks for raising it. I'm off to relook at one of my clients that I think I might be pushing this envelope with. I appreciate SOOO much the feel of the reins on me! It seems quite a few of us (me included) felt #3 hit home. I certainly don’t want that but your questions and comments have got me thinking ‘am i slipping into rescuer some time?
Thanks for raising it. I’m off to relook at one of my clients that I think I might be pushing this envelope with. I appreciate SOOO much the feel of the reins on me!

]]> By: Ruth Ann Harnisch http://www.andreajlee.com/blog/archives/2007/02/19/what-to-do-when-coaching-takes-criticism-8-things-i-personally-try-to-live-by/comment-page-1/#comment-461 Ruth Ann Harnisch Tue, 20 Feb 2007 18:47:57 +0000 http://www.andreajlee.com/blog/?p=421#comment-461 The more I learn about the vast differences in "coaches" and "coaching" on a global scale, the more important I think it is to discover what values we all endorse. Whether a coach is certified, degreed, branded, franchised, trademarked, published, or none of the above, we can all agree on some of Andrea's points. Do no harm. They're all "done" someday. Don't foster dependency. It's all subjective. Link with others who stand for something. Integrity is key. Thanks, Andrea. The more I learn about the vast differences in “coaches” and “coaching” on a global scale, the more important I think it is to discover what values we all endorse.
Whether a coach is certified, degreed, branded, franchised, trademarked, published, or none of the above, we can all agree on some of Andrea’s points.
Do no harm. They’re all “done” someday. Don’t foster dependency. It’s all subjective. Link with others who stand for something.
Integrity is key.
Thanks, Andrea.

]]> By: Sun http://www.andreajlee.com/blog/archives/2007/02/19/what-to-do-when-coaching-takes-criticism-8-things-i-personally-try-to-live-by/comment-page-1/#comment-460 Sun Tue, 20 Feb 2007 14:05:23 +0000 http://www.andreajlee.com/blog/?p=421#comment-460 I am also Asian. I am Korean. I was born in Korea and now live in the US. My husband is American. www.sunshinemin.com I am also Asian. I am Korean. I was born in Korea and now live in the US. My husband is American.
http://www.sunshinemin.com

]]> By: Laura Meyer http://www.andreajlee.com/blog/archives/2007/02/19/what-to-do-when-coaching-takes-criticism-8-things-i-personally-try-to-live-by/comment-page-1/#comment-459 Laura Meyer Tue, 20 Feb 2007 13:20:31 +0000 http://www.andreajlee.com/blog/?p=421#comment-459 I was in marketing and financial services before transitioning into coaching. The greatest lessons I continue to carry from that experience are 1). people want to know what sets you apart from others, 2). you must be able to articulate what you stand for and what you offer and 3). in the end, people "buy" from those they connect with and trust. To me coaching is no different. Every industry has its poor examples and unfortunately they tend to be the ones that get the most attention and reflect poorly on others. I love your openness to criticism Andrea because it reflects your integrity. We must all remember we are walking billboards. I was in marketing and financial services before transitioning into coaching. The greatest lessons I continue to carry from that experience are 1). people want to know what sets you apart from others, 2). you must be able to articulate what you stand for and what you offer and 3). in the end, people “buy” from those they connect with and trust. To me coaching is no different. Every industry has its poor examples and unfortunately they tend to be the ones that get the most attention and reflect poorly on others. I love your openness to criticism Andrea because it reflects your integrity. We must all remember we are walking billboards.

]]> By: Lyle Lachmuth - The Unsticking Coach http://www.andreajlee.com/blog/archives/2007/02/19/what-to-do-when-coaching-takes-criticism-8-things-i-personally-try-to-live-by/comment-page-1/#comment-458 Lyle Lachmuth - The Unsticking Coach Tue, 20 Feb 2007 13:18:22 +0000 http://www.andreajlee.com/blog/?p=421#comment-458 Spot on as always AnZe! The one that 'pings' for me is the business about wanting to hang on to clients. When we get close, intimate, it can be hard to let go -- kind of like watch your children leave. It helps to remember that they may return -- as friends as colleagues ... and that if I have been effective as a coach it's like a litte bit of me going out into the world. Or, is that arrogant? Best, Lyle <a href="http://TheUnstickingCoach.com" rel="nofollow">http://TheUnstickingCoach.com</a> Spot on as always AnZe!

The one that ‘pings’ for me is the business about wanting to hang on to clients.

When we get close, intimate, it can be hard to let go — kind of like watch your children leave.

It helps to remember that they may return — as friends as colleagues … and that if I have been effective as a coach it’s like a litte bit of me going out into the world. Or, is that arrogant?

Best, Lyle
http://TheUnstickingCoach.com

]]> By: Monique Evans http://www.andreajlee.com/blog/archives/2007/02/19/what-to-do-when-coaching-takes-criticism-8-things-i-personally-try-to-live-by/comment-page-1/#comment-457 Monique Evans Tue, 20 Feb 2007 12:41:14 +0000 http://www.andreajlee.com/blog/?p=421#comment-457 Great list! I especially love (3) Cultivate self-sufficiency always. Be a no-addiction zone. As a massage therapist, I flinch when a client tells me how great a job I do, or how much I am their healer. I am mindfully aware that all I can do is be a facilitator to their own healing process. I try to gently, but firmly remind them that they already posses all the wisdom and knowledge needed for the results they desire. Great list! I especially love (3) Cultivate self-sufficiency always. Be a no-addiction zone.
As a massage therapist, I flinch when a client tells me how great a job I do, or how much I am their healer. I am mindfully aware that all I can do is be a facilitator to their own healing process. I try to gently, but firmly remind them that they already posses all the wisdom and knowledge needed for the results they desire.

]]> By: Steve Rose http://www.andreajlee.com/blog/archives/2007/02/19/what-to-do-when-coaching-takes-criticism-8-things-i-personally-try-to-live-by/comment-page-1/#comment-456 Steve Rose Tue, 20 Feb 2007 12:38:03 +0000 http://www.andreajlee.com/blog/?p=421#comment-456 Andrea, Good Coaching Prediction #3 about the continuing criticism of our industry. Some things never change. Isn't it easy to criticize things that are working to help make our world a better place to live. Andrea, Good Coaching Prediction #3 about the continuing criticism of our industry. Some things never change. Isn’t it easy to criticize things that are working to help make our world a better place to live.

]]> By: Alkamae http://www.andreajlee.com/blog/archives/2007/02/19/what-to-do-when-coaching-takes-criticism-8-things-i-personally-try-to-live-by/comment-page-1/#comment-455 Alkamae Tue, 20 Feb 2007 09:12:32 +0000 http://www.andreajlee.com/blog/?p=421#comment-455 The one I really like is "be a no-addition zone." You are right, there is a very fine line between attracting a client through successful marketing and creating an addictive relationship. The first is coming from a place of opening to abundance and the other clutching from lack. The one I really like is “be a no-addition zone.” You are right, there is a very fine line between attracting a client through successful marketing and creating an addictive relationship. The first is coming from a place of opening to abundance and the other clutching from lack.

]]> By: Edward http://www.andreajlee.com/blog/archives/2007/02/19/what-to-do-when-coaching-takes-criticism-8-things-i-personally-try-to-live-by/comment-page-1/#comment-454 Edward Tue, 20 Feb 2007 03:43:08 +0000 http://www.andreajlee.com/blog/?p=421#comment-454 Excellent list!!! One thing I would add though, of course, is the good old Golden Rule that states one should do unto others as one would expect or like others to do to you. That never came across any clearer to me than when I used to be both managing and waiting tables at a restaurant. That was a challenge, and since then I have never gone into a commercial eating establishment with the same attitude ever again. Excellent list!!! One thing I would add though, of course, is the good old Golden Rule that states one should do unto others as one would expect or like others to do to you. That never came across any clearer to me than when I used to be both managing and waiting tables at a restaurant. That was a challenge, and since then I have never gone into a commercial eating establishment with the same attitude ever again.

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